You know want I mean ?

Since all things are a matter of perspective and built into any form of perspective must be a common experiences in order to understand the deep structure of that meaning.
However since we all have unique lives almost 99.9% of us will never understand those around us fully because we lack the root experience needed to under the deep structure of that persons mind.

However in this world there are two way over come this... first is an easy, if you're one of the few empathic you can feel the intent of the person and you don't need to know the deep structure to understand them... the second is the more common one and this is to tell stories of our lives... this is the most commonly use one to build common understanding between people.

Story telling for want of a better expression is the way most of us explain our points of view, however for this to work we need to tell all the stories good and bad and this is where most of us fail, as we don't want to admit our failings.